Transitions in Marriage

 Hello Everyone!

I hope you are doing great and hanging in there with all that is going on in the world. This week in my Family Relations class we talked about transitions in marriage. I know that last week I mentioned a little bit about the process of dating into marriage so I am excited to give you guys a follow-up about the topic. Again as a reminder just to be respectful of everyone's opinion we know that we may think differently thank someone else but that does not mean that we cannot agree to disagree. We all can learn from each other's opinions and backgrounds that sometimes back up our opinions.

So, to start off I want to say that marriage seems like something easy to talk about but in my own perspective seeing all the challenges and transitions you need to go through I would say it also needs a little bit of cooperation and willingness to change. Why do I say that? Well, in my class there is a variety of people some married, single, others engaged, etc. Many of them made comments this week about the different transitions they needed to go through in their marriage and something that really resonate with me was the pattern of willingness to adapt, change, or acceptance of making changes on what they are used to. For example, it was brought up that when you get married many things change you do not hang out as often with your friends as before-careful, I am not saying you won't hang out anymore but you do it less than before-because you know have decided to start a family. You also have some changes if the other person has already a child and they are used to the parent life but you are not. You will definitely go through some transitions with them.

Another interesting thing that came to my mind while we were talking about this was that transition in marriage was not only about your temporal habits and his/her habits and you come to an adjustment. But also your spiritual habits and how those can help your new family to be more united, have less contention, and create a piece of heaven on earth. I want to take a moment to talk about the actual part of marriage. This was something that we did mention during our class time that I feel strongly that I should share. Marriage can be a different experience for everyone but for me as a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints I have to realize marriage means something different. Marriage in the Church of Jesus Christ is meant to last for this time and eternity meaning that marriage does not end when someone passed away. How is this possible? I know it sounds probably for some a little bit different from what you are used to but it is possible due to the gospel of Jesus Christ. 

Marriage is such a sacred thing for me that it does not only involve me and the person I am married too but also God. Making God the center of our marriage can help us to become one with him and towards each other. As members of the Church of Jesus Christ, we get sealed for time and eternity to each other and we make promises with God that include promises to respect, love, and always look for each other. Transition in Marriage includes many changes and sometimes adjustments as I say before but overall I also think includes a mindset to respect, love, and always look for the other person because now is not only about you but you also have another person that is looking at you as someone special for them. Something else that was mentioned that belongs to before getting engaged or married is the fact that hanging out instead of dating will also create this thought that you are not looking for something serious or you are not putting yourself out there because you are afraid to get hurt. If this is the case, do not be afraid I think love is something that we cannot calculate how much you will receive back or if things will be possible with that person that you might like if you do not try. 

Thank you guys if you have made it all the way to the end of my post. I hope that made sense and you can share some of your thoughts with me leave it in the comments below. 

Hope you have an amazing week,

Nahomy Salinas