Hey friends!
I am so happy to be sharing one day more what I have been learning in my Family Relations class. It has been an exciting class to take and lots to learn from the way family dynamic works to why some things are important to talk about or to say in marriage before and after. This week we talked about communication and how important it is to solve the problems that couples can encounter. Just again as a friendly reminder to be respectful of our different opinions our thoughts about the topic. Also, it is okay to agree to disagree. We all come from different backgrounds that enrich our experiences and opinions in a way that we can all learn from each other if they are share in a respectful way.
During my class, we discussed how verbal communication and nonverbal can affect families and create challenges for them. Communication is such an important part of relationships starting from when you are only dating to when you get married. You need to talk and discuss how you want things to work before and at the moment they are happening. Sometimes communication can be seen as something easy to handle in a relationship, but at the same time, if we are honest, we do not read the minds of the other person. Some things are no verbally communicated it and we assume that the other person understands how we are feeling or what is happening even though verbal communication has not existed. In those moments is when conflicts can happen regarding lack of communication. Communication not also has to be with what you say it but also how you say it. It involves the tone of voice you use. For example, When I remember the times my mom wants to say something to me, and she is mad most of the time she says it in a very loving way. Her voice tone is very soft and tries to explain to me the consequences of my actions. Me being the receiver of her message makes me feel her concern about the situation rather than making me feel angry. Whereas when my sister and I are arguing we used to yell and offend each other, which now I consider is not a good way to treat others and it sends a message to me and it turns me to a defensive way.
Another important thing that was mentioned in my class that is worth it to share is about listening to others. Communication not only depends on someone expressing how they feel and why but also on listening to the other person who is communicating. In this week's reading, it was mentioned that there are some styles of poor listening. The faker, the dependent, interrupter, the self-conscious, and intellectual listener. The faker is almost self-explanatory someone who pretends to listen but they are actually not paying attention to what the other one is saying. The dependent is someone who just looks to please the person who is speaking. Self-consciousness is the one that tries rather impress the other person than listening to them. There is also the interrupter is the one who wants to comment in between the conversation while the other person is trying to explain how he feels and finally we have the intellectual listener who mostly restates the words the other person said to look intellectual. In the reading, it talked about some ways we could improve listening skills and I like the one that mentioned taking initiative in communication and listening to others. I believe when we are aware that the other person wants to communicate we should strive our best to help them to be heard. Because at some point we all want to be heard and need to express what we are feeling or something we went through that was not easy. Also resisting distractions can help us to become better listeners to others. I think all these tips can help all of us to be better listeners and also to embrace better communication with others. If we are having better communication then we are also helping our relationships to be center in better mutual problem-solving.
Thanks if you were able to make it to the end. I hope you guys have an awesome Thanksgiving week! Eat lots of turkey, mash potatoes, and gravy.
Nahomy S.
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